Is Your Wife Works?

Quoted from Tabloid NOVA No. 658/XIII

Many men feel that objection when his wife worked. The reason can be manifold. Often the reason was' acceptable ', but often are psychological reasons that are often difficult to received by the sense.

This paper is devoted to the men (especially young couples), although it does not matter if the woman also read. My questions for you - the husband - that is if you are one of the objections of her husband when the wife of your work? If yes, what is the reason you can be received by the sense? Or whether your reasons are psychological? A more severe or longer, if the reason is the impression you have a?

I do not know what you have in mind - the husband. This does not offend me to make the reasons for you, but more to what fate ruginya if your wife works. I will try to be neutral here.

The first benefit of increased self-explanatory, with the wife that you are working, earning in your family will be clear. For many other families, many working wives also share in the expenses of families. Perhaps the husband to cover 50%, the wife is also 50%. But many also his wife (work) which is not to cover family expenses. That is, money is money husband wife, but money is not the money his wife and the husband only to become his wife own the property.

But for many families, the reason for the wife's work may be because during the time the wife does not feel good again 'dijatah' from the husband, so he felt free when the 'money sakunya' incomes derived from their own because he was working.


In fact what occurred?

Let's go back to basics in him. Nature of God to the people who remain from the first until now, is that the women, while men go out looking for sustenance.

When not married, it is possible that the men and women of the same work. Then disusullah with the wedding. When the wife has, so when the wife of the previous work, the wife will usually have to stop or leave from work. After giving birth and the age of the child has reached several months or several years - where the child can be considered to have left - often appear dilemma of the wife if she needs to return to work or not. Reason to return to work various. Maybe the wife will be nostalgic atmosphere in the crowded office. He may also want to explore activities outside the home that can be done every day. Or he may just want to find a new atmosphere that can refresh himself after the children cared for a few months or several years.

However, the desire to return to work sometimes appear out of economic reasons. Earnings may be considered to be two better than one income. Now, families who have only one income it will usually have a number of cost Lifestyle smaller than when the family has two revenue. The money can also ditabung usually smaller. This makes sense: the greater income, will usually be the larger the cost of his life. But the benefits, with only one person working, that one party (usually the wife) can live in the house to see her children grow.

Families with two income - of course - will have the amount of income is greater. But the consequences will be more new things to be thought by their parents, the baby sitter as a problem or problems that will often appear as children leave home, so here, the cost will usually be living large.

Have a couple of reasons why some prefer to have one of two revenue earnings. But one must realize that it is: whether the same work will be the financial problems that arise?

When you are thinking to whether you need to have both of the two or not, you pusatkan attention to the questions about how you will generate both the net cost after your family life and regular savings. After that, see if the amount is satisfactory or not. Then see if the amount is more comparable with the non-material things that sacrificed, such as time lost with children, the ease in caring for children (both of you do not need to have a sitter), and so on and so forth.

To determine whether the two of you need to work together or not, let us view it from two factors: economic factors and non-economic factors.


ECONOMIC FACTORS INTO

Review of economic factors, when the two of you work, then there are the components of living costs will increase dramatically, and there are also components of the new Cost Life will appear, when compared to both of you have only one income.

1. Child care. Clearly, if both of you work outside, you certainly do not want to leave your child alone at home. You need a tutor children, and you must pay each month gajinya. Great small salary depends on where you live. If you live in Jakarta, the wages you pay, of course, will be greater than if you live outside Jakarta that has a cost of living is lower.
2. Entertainment and children's toys. With children who are alone at home without you (except with the nanny), you must create more membelikannya provide entertainment and toys that he is not bored with kesendiriannya. Eat outside. With at least more time to cook, you both will also be more likely to eat outside, either the day or night, with or without children. The existence of domestic workers can not always be a benchmark that you will eat more often at home with your child when the night. Less, with both of you work, you will eat more often outside than if one of you live in the house. Especially at lunch. And eat outside, of course, more expensive than if you own shopping, cooking and eating at home.
3. Transportation home away from home to work. If it was only the husband is the cost for transportation, now with the wife who also worked, the wife must also be the cost of transportation.
4. Other matters relating to the job. The wife must also be spent to buy new clothes that work, and other matters related to work.

Do not you occasionally underestimate these costs on. Before the wife took the decision to work or not, try calculate these costs carefully on paper, and compare it with when the wife stays at home.


Key to Determining What You Need From Second Working or Not

In terms of economics, there is one key to determine whether your wife need to work together or not. Write all the family at this time, kurangkan ago with the number of family expenditure. Then compare the income and expenditure when it is your wife also works. Then, compare the rest.

1. If for example, after the count, the rest of the money you are working is much greater than when only one person working, then - from the perspective economic - will be better if both of you work.
2. But when that happens vice versa, where the rest of the money you are working is smaller than when only one person working, then - from the perspective economic - will be better if only one person of course you both are working.



ECONOMIC FACTORS INTO NON

Sometimes, the decision to have the two are not always based on economic reasons. In Indonesia and in many other countries, living costs are usually borne by the family man - in this case the husband. This makes spouses - the wife - appear to work with the desires mendasarkannya not on the need to obtain the material, but - perhaps - to fill the time, for fun, or other matters outside economic factors.

If so, can-can. Maybe the job satisfaction of mind to give his wife for him. Maybe the work you create intelektualitas wife tergali. Maybe your wife just because you want to work socializing, filling time, or because the work is very enjoyable. When the reasons for this appears, the economic factor may dinomorduakan.


WORK WITHOUT children

When the husband works and the wife does not want to work when he is also working with children, try to work at home. Now, many businesses that can be run from home. Do not worry that people working at home can not be earning as much as people who work outside the home. Any type of business can provide a great income, even though the business is run from home though.


Conclusion

For you men that this objection when your wife is working, try to think again what is your reason for objection. Consider these reasons in terms of economic and non economic. If the reason you are non-economic, think again whether the reasons can be accepted sense or not.

If the non-economic reasons, indeed, be accepted sense, it may already be your wife does not work. But if non-economic reasons for these 'difficult' accepted sense or even seemed to trump up, then think again why you are. My advice to you men: why you consider objectively, and give the best decision for your wife.

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